Mourning is crucial for healing.

Suffering is optional.

"It takes strength to make your way through grief, to grab hold of life and let it pull you forward."

~ Patty Davis

When you understand your mind, body and spirit, you are better equipped to navigate through your feelings of grief.

What is grief wellness?

One constant about grief is that it’s unpredictable. Some days, even moments, can seem manageable; others filled with dread, despair and deep pain. Grief is often overpowering and disorienting, bringing with it conflicting emotions like shame, resentment, regret, anger, fear, sorrow, and physical symptoms like headaches, gut health issues and more, that can ultimately make you feel drained, helpless and isolated.

What most people don’t know is that the human experience of grief is so much more than its simple association with bereavement. Grief is a response to the loss of an attachment to a person, pet, lifestyle, possession or identity, which creates these sudden bouts of suffering. It is felt through the whole being. Grief Wellness is an approach to resolving the suffering that accompanies grief through mind-body solutions. When you understand your mind, body and spirit, you learn how to ease your suffering safely and move to a place of acceptance and ease that feels right for you. True healing moves from the inside out.

Start exploring your options: take a look at my grief massage and wellness coaching services.

 

 

I used to think there was no way to convince myself that [my best friend’s] suicide was not my fault. Now that I feel like my energy and thoughts about the whole situation have been reset, I truly feel like I can keep myself from picking that guilt back up. I think the best thing is that I can talk about her more freely than I could before without working myself up; or getting overly emotional about it.

I’m positive there would have not been any way I would have been able to let go of all the guilt I was holding onto without this session. Not only was the massage a great experience, but having someone listen to you and work with your body to relieve you from a pain you’re feeling really was an amazing experience to feel. It was like I could literally feel the guilt leaving my body. I am so thankful for this experience and I can’t wait to go back! I really have never felt so free and relaxed, and I couldn’t be more thankful.

Alexandra M.

I came to see Marelda because I was adjusting after some big breakthroughs in my trauma healing journey, letting go of my past and parts of myself. The massage made me feel very safe in my own body and quieted the cloud of anxiety I can usually feel around me. I felt very still and at peace, and during the couple of days afterward, I could tell I had left behind some things that weren’t serving me anymore. It was like I shed a layer of dead skin and I could allow myself to be soft again.

I highly recommend Marelda for massage work that has an emotional component. Grief, trauma and stress take a huge toll on the physical body, and Marelda creates a comforting experience to soothe your body, mind and spirit.

Kelsey H.

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about

Hi, I’m Marelda.

Like you, I’ve experienced multiple losses, the hardest one being my mom’s sudden passing in 1999. Looking back, my dad and I had two completely different experiences with grief, and those differences show why grief wellness work is so important to me.

I was in massage school—getting 2-3 massages per week—surrounded by a loving network of friends. Sure, I went through my own period of mourning. But I had the space to process my grief around people who were supportive and affirming of my experience. This worked wonders for my heart and soul.

My dad, on the other hand, like most people, plunged into despair. He had never imagined life without my mom, and the shock took a toll on his health. He suffered from blood sugar imbalances, heart issues and brain fog. He also spoke of unbearable pain in his body. Living in India, my father had access to Ayurveda (ancient Indian medicine), but he was too caught up in shock and poor health to notice what was available until he was coaxed into it. One day at a time, my dad gradually began to follow the Ayurvedic principles of wellness, which include care of the body, mind and spirit, and found normalcy in his life. His health also stabilized.

Between my personal experience with grief and the grief I have witnessed others carrying, it has become crystal clear to me that we must address grief for the whole person from the inside out—but there are few options for education and support.

My journey convinced me that a body that is well-prepared for any level of loss suffers less and has a better opportunity for mourning and self-reconciliation. I also found that since my cup was filled, I could support my dad without feeling resentful. I’ve now made it my mission to share my key learnings to change the way we work through the heaviest, most painful times in our lives.

My mission is to empathically support, educate and empower those struggling with loss using grief wellness skills and tools; to ease suffering, facilitate mourning and reconciliation and create the ripple effect for healing families and communities worldwide.

Client Journey

The human experience of life includes some difficult losses and periods of high stress. However, pervasive cultural taboos around death and the unpredictable nature of grief are both big reasons why we don’t talk about loss in any of its forms or what a healthy mourning process looks like. I believe you deserve the knowledge, tools and interpersonal connection you need to care for your whole self, physically, mentally and emotionally. 

As a lifelong learner and educator, my purpose is to teach others the life-changing skill of separating suffering from mourning and be a supportive witness. Grief grips us unexpectedly and causes sudden changes in our body, mind and spirit. These pangs of grief lead to long-term effects when we continue to resist our own emotions:

  • Deep exhaustion
  • Irritability
  • Anxiety
  • Unpredictable suffocating grips
  • Inability to feel hunger or eat, even when hungry
  • Poor sleep or sleeplessness
  • Racing, draining thoughts
  • Unexplained aches 
  • Low or no motivation
  • Forgetfulness
  • Constant overwhelm
  • Chronic pain

Resolving grief requires both mourning and witness. Mourning is a personal journey culminating in some form of acceptance and surrender, and finding another person who sees what you are going through and safely validates your experience amplifies your healing power. I absolutely believe that suffering through this journey is optional. 

Through grief wellness coaching and massage, I help you feel less fearful of difficult emotions and remind you that it’s okay to take the mourning process at your own pace, but guiding you to keep moving forward for your own wellbeing. I listen so you feel heard, and when you decide to heal and choose to work with me, you’ll find that I do understand your pain. 

The secret is when you know better, you can do better. I believe this with my whole heart and being. I’ve seen the results in my life and those of my clients. 

Education & Experience

Author, Thriving Authentically: Own Your Personal Power And Make Life Happen

Functional Medicine Certified Health Coach – Functional Medicine Coaching Academy

Integrative Nutrition Health Coach – Institute of Integrative Nutrition

Wellcoaches Training Program – Wellcoaches School of Coaching

Massage Therapy – New York College of Health Professions

Massage Therapy – Rising Spirit Insitute of Natural Health

Master of Science – Career & Human Resources Development (including NLP training) – Rochester Institute of Technology

Bachelor of Science – Hotel and Resort Management (including Food Production and Foodservice Operations) – Rochester Institute of Technology

Extensive experience in Corporate HR experience in coaching, consulting, training, planning and strategizing, and in the wellness industry in massage therapy, massage education, spa consulting, and spa therapies.

Ready to get in touch? Contact me to start the conversation about your healing journey.

Marelda took time to ask questions about what I was experiencing so she could fully understand the issue and then not only took care to assure I was comfortable during the massage, but took time afterward to go through exercises I should do to help alleviate it. She also followed up the next day with an email containing a link to a video showing me exactly how to do the exercises as she understands that I was so relaxed after my massage that I wasn’t truly processing everything she told me.

The massage was wonderful! Marelda has a healing touch that allowed me to escape from the world for an hour. She made sure to check in to see how I was doing throughout. Marelda was the ultimate professional from the start. It was easy to both schedule my massage and follow the detailed email sent before my appointment with information on parking, getting to the office, what to expect during the visit and payment information.  

I would wholeheartedly recommend Marelda as she understands not only how the physical body works, but also understands the emotional side and that combination leads to an amazing experience.

 

Lisa N.

“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you’ll learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.”

~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

services

MASSAGE

Massage Therapy has a history of healing for over 5000 years. Include it in yours.

Massage Therapy is more thatn an indulgent way to pamper yourself.  It is a therapeutic bodywork that can relieve both emotional and physical suffering and ultimately changes how your body functions. Emotional pain is processed in the same area of the brain as physical pain, and my massage practice is steeped in an awareness of how feelings and emotions are grounded in the body, shaping everyday moods and experiences. 

I get to know you through a detailed intake before the session because it helps me identify the root causes of your issues and design the best treatment plan to address and resolve them. It also helps me formulate a post-massage care plan to extend the effects. You’ll learn simple daily care tips to manage the progressive effects of aging, stress, injury, poor posture and other health conditions. Feeling the deep tranquility and restoration after a good massage is great motivation to maintain other self-care practices.

NeuroMuscular Therapy

This treatment relieves chronic muscle tension and pain stemming from too much sitting or standing, lack of exercise, weight imbalances, injuries, overuse of personal devices or athletic training. You’ll feel balanced and at ease in your entire body.

 

Grief Massage

This treatment is a gentle and slow-paced massage designed to relieve muscle tension, anxiety, racing thoughts, sleep disturbances, sorrow and exhaustion that accompany grief and high stress resulting from any kind of loss. You’ll feel a comforting sense of calm, hope and lightness.

TMJ Dysfunction Treatment

This treatment eases pain and dysfunction to the temporomandibular joint (jaw) stemming from stress-related clenching, grinding, mouth guard and dental hardware issues or CPAP device usage. You’ll feel pain relief and decreased tension in your jaw.

Contact me to schedule a quick consultation or book your first session.

Very tight right gluteals and low back pain were the main reasons I came in to see Marelda. I also had some tightness in jaw/headaches and overall soreness from my intense workouts. 

The massage totally made me relax and take time for myself, made my body feel better, relieved my pain and showed me I need to make my body and well-being a priority. Regular massage and Marelda’s trigger point work really loosened up my muscles, relieved my aches and pains and made me feel so much better! Now I can move around better in everyday life, feel more flexible and accomplish my workouts better. 

Marelda is a knowledgeable, insightful, dedicated, and experienced massage therapist. She is intelligent and has taught me things I never knew about my body. She is very comfortable to talk to and gives you researched information about your body and exactly what she is working on. She explains how it benefits your body physically, emotionally and mentally. She’s an overall amazing woman and I am so grateful I have met her!

Laura G.

I was experiencing tightness in my hip, and the LMT at my chiropractor has been unable to figure out what was causing the pain. Marelda asked a series of questions during the massage and not only successfully resolved the issue but identified what was causing it and how to monitor/maintain my body going forward by stretching and applying moist heat during specific conditions. I would definitely recommend her to others, and I already have, to a friend who has a similar issue.

Marsha W.

COACHING

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Wellness Is Simple

(60-minute strategy call)

If you have a wellness challenge that’s keeping you in search mode, this strategy session is for you. You may have tried lots of different solutions that haven’t worked, or maybe you’re feeling discouraged because you don’t know where to look or how to begin. In this hour-long call, we unpack your most pressing wellness challenge and create a new plan with strategies that work. Let’s work through it together so you can take control of your wellness with confidence, starting now.

 

Ready for a Big Change

(3-hour intensive)

This intensive turns your wellness wants into a comprehensive, actionable plan that you can jump into with your entire being. You throw out the “easy button” because you want real life-changing results that will last, and you’re all in. You’ll uncover your real vision, map out what it will take to get there in terms of time, energy and activity, and start implementing by the time the session is complete. Mental and emotional breakthroughs along the way are a bonus, so be prepared! And fun—don’t forget fun, no matter how serious you think your challenge is.

Decide to Heal

(6-month individual coaching program)

This treatment eases pain and dysfunction to the temporomandibular joint (jaw) stemming from stress-related clenching, grinding, mouth guard and dental hardware issues or CPAP device usage. You’ll feel pain relief and decreased tension in your jaw.

Contact me to schedule a quick consultation and find out what we can accomplish together.

I had been let go from my job and was searching for what the next step would be in my career evolution. I felt an enormous amount of overwhelm and confusion in deciding which direction to go. Working with Marelda put things into perspective. When faced with making a decision, I can now weigh out the benefits and drawbacks and make a confident decision. The biggest hurdle was to make the decision and then move forward without second-guessing it. Marelda helped me work through that.

I used to think transformation needed to be difficult.  After working with Marelda, I realize now that the hardest part of transformation is waiting on the fence. Once the decision to change is made and the ball starts rolling forward, the process just unfolds. I am very grateful to have had the opportunity to work with such an incredibly professional and knowledgeable person.

Rebecca P.

Prior to my sessions, I always felt overwhelmed and dysfunctional, in the sense that there was no separation between the tasks and responsibilities I had to take care of for work versus my personal life. Through my coaching sessions with Marelda, I was educated on how to unravel the self-inflicted chaos. She helped me to realize that if our health is up to par, then our coping ability to deal with “life” is drastically improved. I learned that feeling overwhelmed and dysfunctional is a limiting belief that comes from an inadequately nurtured mind. What has been a drastic improvement for me is that I am more conscious and present. 

Though I knew Marelda as a friend before employing her services, I quickly learned that she is a professional who takes what she does very seriously and passionately—friend or not, which elevated my respect for her even more. She listens to understand rather than listening to respond, which made the content of some conversations very difficult at times, but even then I felt a sense of “she has my best interest at heart,” which broke down a lot of barriers that contributed to why I needed a health coach in the first place.

Peter J.

“You will survive and you will find purpose in the chaos. Moving on doesn’t mean letting go.”

~Mary Van Haute

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